Hey, guys! I hope you had a great week!

Let’s talk about relationships and not just any kind of relationship, but one of the most important relationship there is, aka the relationship with OURSELVES. Today I want to give you the best advice about self-love.

I spotted this quote by Lucille Ball earlier this week: “Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” Can I get an amen?!

Often, we spend time maintaining social relationships and pouring ourselves into others without realizing that we aren’t feeding ourselves the same love. Imagine how you treat yourself on a daily basis if you were another person, in a relationship with you.

Are you kind to yourself? 

If I answered this question for myself, the answer would be no. I continually beat myself up over things I believe could be better in my life. Either it is my weight, where I am in my career, my not so flawless skin. However, at the drop of a hat, I’d be ready to tell a friend that they’re crazy for thinking that anything is wrong with them.
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I grew up in a household where encouragement was a little thing called tough love. I can recall one day when I came home from school (I believe I was in 8th grade) with a test score of 80%. The first thing out of my mom’s mouth was, “Why couldn’t you have gotten 100%?” Hence, my fixation on the negatives.

Something I have learned over the past months is that self-love is something that I have to practice each day conscientiously. The moment I began to practice the art of self-love is the very moment I began to see the positives in life.

Since meeting Nick, I have been more open to the positivity around me. He’s played a part in helping me focus on the positives attributes of myself and life. It hasn’t been easy, and I do have days where I have many doubts about my abilities, but reciting my positive affirmations helps. 

Here’s my prescription for self-love:

1. Create a self-love ritual – My thing to do is unwinding with one of my favorite shows whether it be comedy or drama coupled with wine (if available at home) while applying my face mask. Other times, I’ll unwind with a good book. 

2. Practice daily affirmations. You would be surprised at how well this works. A few simple words powerful enough to change your mood. 

3. Learning to say no.  Don’t over-schedule, over-book or over-commit. We usually feel compelled to help others, but over time, we are only harming ourselves and opening doors to becoming taken advantage of. Saying no doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you smart.

4. Give up the need for approval from others. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the word, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” – Dita Von Tesse

5. Keep your self-talk positive. Turn down the volume on your inner critic and choose to be your best coach or cheerleader. I’m still working on this one.

6. Lastly, Learn to forgive yourself. As humans, we are our own worst critics. We are not built to be perfect. We make mistakes. Use each opportunity, good or bad, to grow. Sometimes we just need to stop and remind ourselves that we are human. Be gentle with yourself.

Self-love is a journey. It takes devotion and practice, Resolve to love yourself every day and watch how your life will change for the better.

I would like for us to try an exercise in the comments section together. Share three things you love about yourself. 

Here are mine: 1.) I love how pleased I feel when others are happy, 2.) I love my ability to make others laugh, 3.) I love my corny jokes! Your turn 😉

Hey loves! I hope you’re having a wonderful week.

Over the years, I couldn’t be more thankful for good hair days. But over the last couple weeks, I have been grateful for good skin days, and it is all thanks to this little bottle. Meet my skin saviour, Island Skin Line’s Coconut Oil Virgin Wildcrafted. But first, let’s backtrack a bit….

I’ve always had problematic skin. I’ve suffered from acne since I was in the fourth grade and it has always been a burden. I’ve tried all the over counter products you could think of. I even visited a dermatologist who prescribed Retin-A, and it was of no use.  Currently, I don’t suffer from the pimples as frequently as I did as a teenager but I do suffer from minor breakouts especially in the summer and dark spots.

Summer has always been the worst time for my skin. The intense heat sends my skin into a frenzy, and it rebels. While I live in Jamaica, which is summer most of the days, when the summer season rolls around, it is incredibly hot.

As summer approaches, I was a bit apprehensive about finding a solution to combat the harsh weather. A couple of months ago, I had an allergic reaction to a particular body product and had to seek some alternative to alleviate my pain.

In my Google research, (Yes, I’m one of those persons who consult with google first before visiting a physician), coconut oil seemed to be the solution to my issue. I was quickly discouraged and thought my problems wouldn’t go away as a 10ml bottle of coconut oil in Jamaica costs around $2,000-2,500 JMD which is equivalent to $15-19 USD.

My significant other suggested that I still browse the nearby pharmacy to see what other products could be used. As fate would have it, I found Island Skin Line and the price wasn’t ridiculous and it’s Jamaican made which was a big plus as I enjoy supporting my fellow country men and women.

I paid roughly $10USD for a 120ml bottle and lasted me a month and a half. Over the course of 6 weeks, my symptoms not only cleared up but so did the annoying breakouts I had, due to lack of water and copious amounts of sugary drinks.

Overnight, my annoying pimples and rashes disappeared, and my skin had this strange glow about it. I was unsure whether or not this bottle had worked this well so last month, I decided to purchase my second bottle, and I must say that this thing works!!

The effects of summer have slowly crept in my skin has started to react, but it has been minimal as I have been using the coconut oil religiously.I use it under my makeup as a moisturizer, as a makeup remover, and as a night cream. My skin has never looked or felt better.

I plan to explore their skin line further to see what other benefits my skin could achieve. You can visit their website here.

Until next time nuff love!

Happy Wednesday Loves!!!

This review has been long overdue. So let’s get into it.

Last Monday, Nick and I caught the 8:45 pm showing of Wonder Woman. We had been highly anticipating this movie ever since her appearance in Batman vs. Superman.

It’s no secret that DC is known to drop the ball when it came to the recreation of superhero movies, so we kept our expectations to a minimum.  

The film began and our minds, well specifically my mind was just blown. Wonder Woman genuinely was everything I wanted out of a superhero movie and more. Not only did we get a lot of bad ass action sequence like when she flipped off the tank or went head first into the top of the building to stop a sniper but the director, Patty Jenkins, really infused a lot of emotions along with the action. Each character was portrayed as realistic persons, and we get to know their little idiosyncrasies. 

I loved that they didn’t allow Wonder Woman to save the world right away. The problem I normally have with some superhero movies, although they are superheroes, they seem to have a handle on their powers pretty quickly, and it seemed unrealistic to me. But that wasn’t the case here.

Although Diana was training all her life for the epic battle with Ares, we see her slowly getting familiar with her powers and the real world.

I believe Gal Gadot was the perfect fit for WonderWoman. Her acting was one of the best elements of the movie. Before becoming the leading woman in the film, Gadot was pretty close to ending her acting career. On the Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon, the star said she had been planning to wrap her acting career shortly before Wonder Woman came through because of numerous rejections.

However, the Isreali actress brought the character to life on the big screen, and we love her and what she represented. Fans were even more impressed by her dedication to the film when the revelation was made that she was five months pregnant during reshoots.

If you have watched the movie, what was your best part? Did you think Gal Gadot did an excellent job bringing an all time favorite super heroine to the big screen?

In February, five-time Olympic medalist Sanya Richards-Ross excitedly announced in People Magazine that she and former NFL cornerback Aaron Ross were expecting a child. 

However, she dropped a huge bomb on her fans at her memoir released on Tuesday about her previous pregnancy.
Ross explained in her memoir “Chasing Grace: What The Quarter Mile Has Taught Me About God and Life” that in 2008, right before the Olympics, she chose to have an abortion. 

She wrote in her book, “Everything I ever wanted seemed to be within reach. The culmination of a lifetime of work was right before me. In that moment, it seemed like no choice at all. The debate of when life begins swirled through my head and the veil of a child out of wedlock at the prime of my career seemed unbearable. What would my sponsors, my family, my church, and my fans think of me?”

“Abortion would now forever be a part of my life. A scarlet letter I never thought I’d wear. I was a champion — and not just an ordinary one, but a world-class, record-breaking champion. From the heights of that reality I fell into a depth of despair,” she wrote.

In an interview with Sports Illustrated, she revealed that she didn’t know of a female track athlete that didn’t have an abortion.

This statement didn’t go over well with some of the pro-lifers. Many slammed Sanya for pointing fingers at other female athletes instead of focusing on her issue. 

One user on youtube had this to say,

They believed she ultimately tried to justify her actions by declaring that she wasn’t the only one to commit this act.

Abortion has and will always be a subject that evokes great passion and strong arguments. While, many believe that ‘all life matters’ and ‘it’s a woman’s choice’, shouldn’t we acknowledge her strength to come forward and declare this publicly? Shouldn’t we admire the fact that she is willing to use her story to deter others from making the same mistake?

Frankly, I believe this is an eye opener into the world of Sports. As spectators, we are given tickets to the show, but what happens behind closed doors? What about the sacrifices they had to endure to keep us entertained and to achieve their dreams?

I may not agree with Mrs. Ross’ decision, but we are not the ones to cast judgment.

Do you think she threw her fellow athletes under the bus? If so, was she trying to justify her actions or is this solely for educating young women/female athletes as she stated in several interviews? Sound off in the comment section.

Working in a toxic environment is no one’s ideal situation. Now the job market isn’t doing so well in Jamaica; in fact, it’s the worst time to start searching for a new job.

While it’s okay to have a stressful day now and then at the office, there are significant signs that highlight you’re working in a toxic work environment. But what exactly do some of these signs entail?

A toxic work environment is any environment that makes you feel uncomfortable, unappreciated or undervalued. This ranges from an air of hostility, being talked down to, bullying, mismanagement and subtle forms of poor communication.

Those above can come from a coworker, your boss, and even your clients. 

No one should ever have to work in an environment that causes you physical/psychological pain, but unfortunately, this is more common than we acknowledge. In accepting this as the norm, we run the risk of harming ourselves over the long term, both professionally and psychologically.

Do these signs sound familiar? Does anyone else in your company feel the same way? Or are you simply being emotional? The chances are you aren’t sensitive or overreacting, what you feel is real but employers/ some employees label your feelings as such because, at the end of the day, their bottom line comes first.

1. Your boss has poor leadership skills

Sometimes a toxic work environment is derived from how a boss treats their employees. Supervisors can take advantage of their power and make the staff feel inferior by talking down to them. In some instances, the managers’ neglect of said environment can contribute to the toxicity.

2. Your colleagues are unprofessional

 If your fellow employees take credit for your work, love to spread rumors or throw you under the bus, it will be hard for you to work under such conditions and it leads to a deteriorating environment. If you don’t feel supported by your colleagues then maybe it’s time to be a part of a different team.

3. The excitement to go to work isn’t there

Isn’t this usually the telltale sign that something is wrong? Everyone has days where they don’t feel like going into the office, finding an excuse and when you do muster the courage and drag yourself out of the house, you’re not concerned with the time. You think “whatever happens, happens. 

4. You’re more aware of all the things that are going wrong

When you first started the job, the broken water cooler wasn’t an issue, the faulty WiFi, even your favorite bathroom stall being out of use for months (yes I have a favorite stall…doesn’t everyone?). But as times goes on, the rose colored glasses come off, and you’re annoyed by everything.

5. Constantly looking for a new job

If you’re searching the classifieds like clockwork, then you have a problem. Your passion or interest no longer lies in your current job.

6. Your Boss is preventing you from progressing professionally

It’s hard to imagine you could live in a world where your boss doesn’t want you to excel, but the harsh reality is you have managers who desire to confine you to a box because they are afraid of your potential. Most persons would ideally like to work with someone or in an environment that grooms us to be the successful professional we dreamed we could be. Instead, we are given ‘busy’ work even when we are capable of doing so much more.

Just because you want a job or desire to sustain your employment long term, doesn’t mean you have to deal with these issues. If you find that many of these signs are present in your work environment, then it may be time to change your career. 

Remember: your well-being should be a priority, if you should fail to carry out a crucial aspect of your duties, your employers won’t hesitate to replace you. However, experience in the current job doesn’t mean it won’t work out if you choose to pursue a different one.

Do you work in a toxic environment? Let me know how you deal with it in the comments below.