Not everybody will like or love my hair and that’s ok.
I love my natural hair.
I have been natural all my life….25 years to be exact. I have experimented with colours, protective styles but I’ve never ventured the processed hair road. Mainly because I was scared to lose my edges and the idea just didn’t appeal to me.
I made the decision to loc my hair on August 19, 2015, and I think it was and still is the best decision I’ve made for my hair. I can wash and go as I please and not worry about what the wind will do to my hair, I don’t have to host the weekly face off with the knots in my hair and the dryer anymore ( I know those of you with loose natural hair know what I’m talking about) and I’m now able to put my hair in a bun without the assistance of a second or third person.
It has been a liberating journey but it wasn’t always so. Here are some of the things that I’ve learnt on this journey.
1. Everyone will question your decision
This happened frequently when I was in the decision-making process. A friend of mine actually said that I would not look good with locs, that it was better to process my hair. While I could have argued with them about this, I decided not to because not everyone would/will understand or even agree with your views and that’s fine. So, I listened to those friends and family members who had opposing views on the matter, however, I was resolute in my belief as did my mother and early that August morning, I was at the Beautiful Earth Haven Salon undergoing my transformations.
You cannot live your life for others, you just have to be confident enough in yourself and do what makes you happy.
Patience is key in this process. Of course, I did extensive research on locs for months. I had already conditioned my mind that this would be a slow and somewhat frustrating process so I was ready to embrace it. I embraced all the frizz, all the unruliness of my hair ( honestly, it wasn’t all that unruly). Of course, I had moments (still do) where I see some women with their long beautiful locs and think ‘when will I get there?’ For the first three months, I had a serious case of Loc envy. One thing to remember, let your hair do its thing. It knows what it wants and what it will become so be patient and don’t force it.
There will be endless conversations on myths regarding locs. From myths like ‘locs are dirty, they can’t be styled to you’ll have to shave your head when you change your mind’. The myths are NOT true as I said I did a TON of research.
I don’t know who is spreading these false facts but your locs are as clean as you want them to be. I wash my hair every week or whenever I feel the urge to and I style it often. As for the ‘shave your head’ part, that is a personal choice, usually for those with sister-locks. There is a pull-down process which takes awhile you’ll have to find out from your salon about the cost for the service. It’s important to do your research, once you have the facts, you’ll easily be able to identify the myths.
4. Every journey is unique
Regularly I get hit with the ‘how can I get my hair like yours?’ questions and the answer is…..you can’t. No hair quality is alike, yours is different from mine and from every other loc’d haired person in the world. Educate yourself by understanding how to achieve healthy hair based on a personal regime, the ingredients of products you use and learn the dos and donts. Join communities and forums and learn from others. The key thing to take away, don’t stress! let your hair do all the work just treat it well.
Do you have locs? I would love to hear about your experience in the comment section.