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  • A Special Wish For You

    “I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun”.
    Charles R. Swindoll

    As we grew up, many friends we made in our teen phase, did not transition into our adult lives. The few who did, we treasure especially when you live oceans apart with only technological options of communication.

    After awhile, those WhatsApp and text conversations seem so impersonal. Delayed responses, the difference in time zones, career and family responsibilities, you can’t help but feel a void in your friendship, a gap in a once well-oiled machine.

    How do you let someone know how much they mean to you when you are miles apart?

    You send them a wish.

    I’m not talking about waiting on a shooting star or a birthday wish. I’m talking about a physical, tangible, personalized wish.

    That’s where A Wish For You comes in.

    A Wish For You offers the services of delivering a small memento accompanied by a personal card with a message created by you; to share with someone special in your life.

    When I came across their Instagram Page, I had just spoken to a friend of mine who’s expecting her first child next month. She was expressing some difficulties in her pregnancy and how she had to manage some of the responsibilities with the help of her grandmother because the father of her child was travelling for business.

    She felt alone and although she didn’t admit it, I could tell she was scared.

    I thought that their service would be the perfect way to show her that she wasn’t alone in her pregnancy. Kyra, the Engagement Director and her amazing team provided me with an excellent platform to do just that.

    The Process

    First, I had to choose a gift. I went with the Giraffe Night Light as an addition to the decoration of the nursery.

    Browsing the website

    Giraffe Lamp

    Next, I had to choose a card to accompany the gift. Now, in my excitement, I totally missed this step. However, Kyra had my back! She sent me a quick message via Instagram to let me know of the issue and picked out a beautiful onesies card for my friend.

    A Wish For You Greeting Card

    The final step was to create a message to be included.

    The day the package was delivered, my friend had just returned from the hospital, after a scare. The timing was perfect. I’m almost convinced that A Wish For you planned this.

    The setup was too perfect.

    The package was even wrapped in purple; my friend’s favourite colour and I had no discussions with the team about this.

    I kid you not.

    The Package received

    The team went all out to make this quite special. My friend was beyond happy. She sent me several videos throughout the day with the night lamp.

    Special shout out to Kyra, you made this an incredible experience. I will definitely be using this service again.

    Guys, if you haven’t utilized this service, you definitely should. I will be providing you with a discount code on my social media. If you have used A Wish For You, let me know of your experience in the comment section.

    Disclaimer: I received the service in exchange for writing this review.  Although this post is sponsored, all opinions are my own.

    My Date With Mr. Penniless

    Hey Guys!

    I am super excited to announce my first guest post collaboration with the amazing Kay Darden (@mzohsoclassy) on her blog Single Htown.

    You can go and check out the post here.

    Find out about my date with Mr. Penniless.

    The Best Advice I Can Give About Self-Love

    Hey, guys! I hope you had a great week!

    Let’s talk about relationships and not just any kind of relationship, but one of the most important relationship there is, aka the relationship with OURSELVES. Today I want to give you the best advice about self-love.

    I spotted this quote by Lucille Ball earlier this week: “Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” Can I get an amen?!

    Often, we spend time maintaining social relationships and pouring ourselves into others without realizing that we aren’t feeding ourselves the same love. Imagine how you treat yourself on a daily basis if you were another person, in a relationship with you.

    Are you kind to yourself? 

    If I answered this question for myself, the answer would be no. I continually beat myself up over things I believe could be better in my life. Either it is my weight, where I am in my career, my not so flawless skin. However, at the drop of a hat, I’d be ready to tell a friend that they’re crazy for thinking that anything is wrong with them.

    I grew up in a household where encouragement was a little thing called tough love. I can recall one day when I came home from school (I believe I was in 8th grade) with a test score of 80%. The first thing out of my mom’s mouth was, “Why couldn’t you have gotten 100%?” Hence, my fixation on the negatives.

    Something I have learned over the past months is that self-love is something that I have to practice each day conscientiously. The moment I began to practice the art of self-love is the very moment I began to see the positives in life.

    Since meeting Nick, I have been more open to the positivity around me. He’s played a part in helping me focus on the positives attributes of myself and life. It hasn’t been easy, and I do have days where I have many doubts about my abilities, but reciting my positive affirmations helps. 

    Here’s my prescription for self-love:

    1. Create a self-love ritual – My thing to do is unwinding with one of my favorite shows whether it be comedy or drama coupled with wine (if available at home) while applying my face mask. Other times, I’ll unwind with a good book. 

    2. Practice daily affirmations. You would be surprised at how well this works. A few simple words powerful enough to change your mood. 

    3. Learning to say no.  Don’t over-schedule, over-book or over-commit. We usually feel compelled to help others, but over time, we are only harming ourselves and opening doors to becoming taken advantage of. Saying no doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you smart.

    4. Give up the need for approval from others. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the word, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” – Dita Von Tesse

    5. Keep your self-talk positive. Turn down the volume on your inner critic and choose to be your best coach or cheerleader. I’m still working on this one.

    6. Lastly, Learn to forgive yourself. As humans, we are our own worst critics. We are not built to be perfect. We make mistakes. Use each opportunity, good or bad, to grow. Sometimes we just need to stop and remind ourselves that we are human. Be gentle with yourself.

    Self-love is a journey. It takes devotion and practice, Resolve to love yourself every day and watch how your life will change for the better.

    I would like for us to try an exercise in the comments section together. Share three things you love about yourself. 

    Here are mine: 1.) I love how pleased I feel when others are happy, 2.) I love my ability to make others laugh, 3.) I love my corny jokes! Your turn 😉

    What Are The Keys To Great Sex? (Asking For A Friend)

    Pop Quiz: What is the key to great sex? Is it mastering foreplay? Being well endowed? Knowing all the positions in Kamasutra?

    I had girl talk on the phone with a close friend of mine earlier this week who revealed that she had the worst sex in her life. What she said next had me rolling on the floor. She said, “He had a big d**k so I thought he could do it well.”

    Isn’t this the age-old myth? That a man with a big penis is better at having sex?

    Great sex has nothing to do with how big your penis is, how small/tight your vagina is or how freaky you are. Whoever said this, clearly has been having terrible sex. 

    It’s about curiousity and open-mindedness. It’s about understanding pleasure, intimacy and satisfaction. It’s adapting and adjusting when things get weird. 
    And trust me, they do.

    You’ll have more weird moments than you could ever imagine.

    Here are some guidelines for having steamy, toe-curling sex.

    1. Know what you want

    I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard persons giving vague descriptions as it relates to what they desire sexually. Knowing what turns you on, what you like or dislike is a major factor in having pleasurable sex. It helps your partner to know how to get you where you want to go. 
    If you don’t know, he won’t, and no one will be getting off. 

    2. Great sex is planned

    Some persons believe that spontaneous sex is the only way to have sex, but that’s not true. Maybe in the initial stages of courtship but planned sex has just the same impact. For example, if you intend to have sex with your significant other on Saturday night, the week leading up to the day sets the stage for heavy foreplay.  I call it “sexual anticipation”.
    So a nude picture here, graphic description of the positions you want it in there, equals to the perfect recipe to create arousal as it cooks up all kind of fantasies of what could happen on the sex date.

    3. Great sex = Communication

    Communication is everything when it comes to intimacy. It isn’t about putting new moves on someone and hoping they reciprocate. It’s talking about and expressing what you need as well as what your partner wants and needs.
    It’s about saying ‘ Yes right there’ or ‘I like when you do that’. It’s also saying when it hurts or when you don’t like it and when to stop. Don’t endure pain just because you don’t want to ruin the mood. Your partner will understand and if they don’t then you should not be having sex with them.

    4. There is no pressure

    You don’t need to do anything you’re not comfortable with. You shouldn’t feel pressured to do any act or be anyone you’re not. If your partner is pressuring you, then you should discuss it.
    There are a lot of materials about sex but they are based on stereotypes and traditional gender roles. Write your rules and remember that the rest is still unwritten.

    What are some of your rules/tips for great sex?

    Who Was Your A**Hole?

    Everyone has one.

    One terrible relationship (for me two) that lasted waaaaay too long and had you asking yourself at the end of it, “What the f**k was I thinking?”

    Happens to the best of us….trust me.

    I’ve had those moments where I reflect on how far I’ve come and I cringe at how oblivious I was to sh*t-storm that was heading my way. I guess it was a needed lesson for me to put away the rose coloured glasses and understand that there are a**holes in the world.

    I was rather naive in my teenage years and I’m embarrassed to say that I didn’t learn my lesson the first, second or third time around. It took me being dropped off at some corner like a prostitute by my ex, who was supposed to be my ride home, at 1 a.m. and at the mercy of some pretty shady characters, to finally get a grip on my reality.

    Right after shedding a few tears.

    Yeah, I cried. I was nineteen and he was that guy who turned heads by walking into a room, the one who made me mad and then have me smiling like an idiot. But he was also that guy who played mind games, who made me feel important for a minute and then the lowest life form in another, that guy who I clearly had nothing in common with but somehow convinced myself that I did. The one who constantly wanted to see me…..just to borrow money. 

    Classic A-hole!

    This blog post isn’t a rant about him being a bad person because I’ve gotten over it. He wasn’t the one for me and I was okay with that.

    Lie!…I wasn’t all that okay with it then. I mean I showed up at his school to bash his face in with a board that had two iron nails sticking out of it. Come to think of it, I hammered those nails in earlier that day.

    But I’m okay with it now. He was the obstacle on my journey to better person and judge of character. His placement in my life helped me to know my worth and to make better choices so I decided to take my experience as a blessing and move on because I refused to allow it to hinder my happiness.

    On the other hand, If he wasn’t an A-hole, I wouldn’t have met the man who knew my worth.  Its no secret that my current relationship exceeds any expectations I could have possibly had. He healed me in ways I didn’t know I needed and his love helped me to overcome traits that held me back from discovering happiness.

    Whether you’ve been through it or going through it now, look at your terrible experience and see the positives. You may be feeling like you are the problem or thinking what you could have done better but the problem isn’t you…it’s him. This is your transformative moment, where you realize that if you want that mind-blowing relationship, you have to figure out what your priorities are. 

    Don’t dwell on what you couldn’t change, acknowledge that it happened but don’t let it define you. You have the opportunity to learn and grow from that relationship.

    Who was your a**hole? What was your defining moment? Leave me your thoughts below.